Janus. Dealing with the past sorting out the present and looking forward
5 years on and 1 day.
I was first empowered to write this blog 5 years ago. Last week I met up with Janus and he had a different story to tell as he was distracted from his usual business by Ego.
Spirits message this week to go back and revisit the old blog see who remember might have read the original blog which I wrote in 2012 it can still be found on the Spirit Guide Network under the original title for those of you who might want to refresh your memory.
Janus or January which is my New Year’s thoughts allow me to realise that this month is a month of cleaning up and throwing out it also a time that we reflex the past having spent the last couple of months hoping that we will meet that certain someone or the certain someone will wake up and realised what they have thrown away.
This blog was written to give an outlook on how we tend to hang on to the past and then to tackle and try to move forward into the present and then onwards to the future with a gentler understanding of how we deal with ends and look forward to new beginnings.
The Roman God Janus is represented by two heads back to back. It is also given to the month of January and the story goes that one head faces the past the other looks forward to the future.
His name also was given to the month of January which is pretty neat when you think he gets to see in the New Year and say goodbye to the old.
It’s the time of new beginnings, fresh promises that sometime easily get broken. Janus is also the door keeper as like a door it opens both in and out of the room, so he gets to see what’s behind him and what is to come.
Next month I will talk of new love as it’s the month for lovers.
Till then I am showing you that standing at the door like Janus it does you, no good to look back and think ‘what if I had done something different?’ At the time you choose what you felt was right your gut reaction. Many of you often take someone back and give them a second chance sometimes and third and often a forth.
However, with a real lot of effort on both parts it can and does work. Again it takes time and commitment and really important if children are involved. (But then again don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t). Children need love and support. Two people together who aren’t getting along can still make good parents apart. (Fact of life).
Plus often with the pressure of everyday life we do want it to succeed to last. The need to work, provide money, health and support families, we want it to work we hate to be alone at Christmas because it seems that others are so happy to be honest it’s the highest season of suicide and break ups than any other time of the year.
In previous articles the Reason Season or Lifetime I spoke about how we meet people for different reasons and how some are there for precious moments, others come and go like a bad smell which you can’t seem to get rid of and then others you’re stuck with the complications of the feelings of things that started right and end wrong.
We often hang on to them like clothes we are desperate to fit in but reality they never really fitted that well in the first place and even when we managed to squeeze ourselves into them self-doubt creeps in making us wonder if they go the ‘full haul’ or we see someone else with a better colour or style making us challenge or test why we were wearing them in the first place.
Then what happens is those who previously considered you mates with benefits seem to find you once again, because, someone else interested in you. This starts the ball rolling and it comes from all directions, others seem to start sniffing around.
I know those of you know reading this will understand what I am talking about. It’s not really clothes but relationships. Letting an ‘X’ back thinking better the devil you know. Trusting someone not to hurt you but still knowing or feeling guilty that they will! You pretend to have amnesia.
You’re friends think you had a brain transplant. The thing is that it’s ok to try but please don’t beat yourself up afterwards because if you haven’t have tried Otherwise you will always been wondering why. You can’t change the past but you can change the future.
Go through the door way with good intentions and your make the start leave the past behind it’s easy to have rose coloured glasses when you remember all good times it then we have selected memory loss which makes us all temporary insane. Again, this can happen because we all need motivation; we need a goal to strive for.
There are times, especially when we walk away it’s seems hard then times goes on it gets easier and we become confident again only to be swayed by a smile a sudden text or blast from the past and not the good kind.
The kind of bad boy kind that makes us feel special or excited it like you know you might get caught but that’s half of it the kill or perhaps you have realised you’re the prey all over again. Wondering deep down when the bottom will fall out.
Then it all goes to pot you can’t live with them and you can’t live without them. You don’t know if you’re ‘Arthur or Martha’ and everyone else around you thinks you’re mad and you need your head examined. This is where you need the flash of light to go off in ‘YOUR’ head to warn you that the promise of change is only backed up with the actual deed.
They say the proof of a good pudding is in the eating well if you let him eat it!
Do you seriously believe for one minute that he will save you some OH! Hang on a minute the flying pig just flew past. Wake up and smell the Roses.
Is it all doom and gloom? No! Why because fore warned is fore armed. If when it strikes and at some time, some where it might you will hopefully think well I gave it another go. Then stop punishing yourself and the road to recovery will happen so much faster. The damage to others around you will be limited and you will hang on to self-respect and quite happily chuck that top out realising you did not really want or like it in the first place.
Then you just might realise you have seen another top which is not so loud bright or full and realise that if you pass Janus in the door way smile and tell yourself the month only last for thirty one days and next month you can start thinking about what you want knowing that you have finally left behind the past and can get on with the present and future.
It’s been Five years since I wrote this article as an insight and over view which can happen over time.
We as humans have a responsibility to give respect love in relationships too! Slip of the tongue over-heard conversations mess will with some people’s heads. Complaining that someone is getting chucked out as soon as Christmas is over gives you a bad name.
Especially when the next time they are seen talking everything is ok as they have changed their mind and feels sorry for them as they have man flu. Every relationship worth having is worth fighting for but it’s is and always will be a two way street.
I am already looking forward to what spirit want to share about the months of February.
Annielise Stone One month to Valentine’s Day! Give or take a day January 15th 2017
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