I would really love to hear your opinion and experience of this!
This came up yesterday during Reiki One workshop. Lovely group coming together for the first time. Everyone there for a reason and everyone having something valuable and wonderful to add into the mix.
One of the group, clever lady, brought up about how she had the end of a cold. But, she said, aren't colds a reminder to take time out and relax? That your body purposefully allows bugs in to give you a time to sit down and relax and look after yourself. I had to absolutely agree!!
We need to listen to our bodies, but instead we put pills in our bodies to numb our bodies reactions to illness, and carry on regardless.
And we've all been guilty of it.
But thankfully we are coming out of that 'hard work' ethic.
That isn't the same as taking joy in a good days work (which I think is a more accurate translation of Usui's 'just for today work hard' but, as usual, I digress).
Think about what hard work really means.
Generations where manual hard work was a reality are, for the majority in the West, a thing of the past. So, instead of accepting that we've done a good day sat at our desks, or flitting about teaching Reiki (yeah this is also about me lol) , we don't achieve this mindset. So instead we do 10 hours overtime, work through our lunch hours and smile through the Thursday night works drinks. I've done it. No need in me for promotion. I'm sure others looking at me would have thought I was a career girl. I wasn't. I just worked 'hard'. I also played hard, but that's an Irish attitude I'm quite happy with ;-)
And what better way to work hard then to go to work ill!! Ooooh! Yeah you're thinking. Jesus I've done that. And actually, when you look at it, it's totally messed up!
So I've been on a journey of self love for a few years now. Since I've had my son, every Winter, for years now, we're ill. Both my son and I particularly. Hubby and Alice suffering to a certain extent. I started to write off two months for illness around Christmas.
I've known my whole life that diet is vital to our health (having a father who's a power lifter, then a body builder, then a triathlete tends to teach you that wether you're interested or not. You may see where my hard work ethic came from. . . Lol). And the couple of years I've made an active effort on my gut health in order to improve my, and my son's, immune systems. Eating well, not eating right or healthy. Different mindsets to each of those. I couldn't understand why last year despite the effort we were still ill. I felt better for what I'd done, and I highly recommend anyone with immune system issues to look at their gut health.
But I hadn't quite got to the end of my hard work mindset until last summer, until I nearly managed to kill myself at the end of my pregnancy, through my hard work ethic. If you're interested, I've done a few blogs about this journey here.
So this winter, when my son was ill, rather than agreeing with the GP that my son was ok to go back into school, dosing him up to trick his body into thinking it was ok and sending him in. I gave him 10 days off school for a sore throat. No infection. Just a virus. But I wasn't letting him go back to school, which he loves so it is a struggle to get him to agree, until he was well.
It occurred to me last year that although I'd chosen to be self employed to make my life easier and that of my family, I wasn't taking advantage of that. I was still getting childcare over half term and summer holidays. Why? Yes ok, monetarily it was still worth me doing it. But in terms of family and work balance it really wasn't. And that was a really easy mindset to change.
One of the advantages of being self employed is that if push comes to shove, clients are very understanding if kids as ill and I need to rearrange. And if they're not understanding, that's cool. We're obviously not both in the same space to work together. They'll find someone to work with who suits them better and I'm really happy that they'll get the help they need elsewhere.
I know. You're worrying about money. You know what? That's a trust in the Universe thing. Something, I'm blessed to say, I've always had. I can always cancel the Sky. I can stop getting a Friday night take away. We can take out a picnic rather than buying lunch. I can cook well enough to live off lentils for a couple of months. And in all honesty, that's how we tend to live anyway. (do the £1 or $1 challenge in the charity or thrift shop or pound/dollar store, see what glee the kids take in seeing who can buy the most tat!). There's great freedom in knowing that all you really need is very little. So maybe a little of my faith in the Universe providing, is actually trust in myself having the tools to provide!?
You may have a boss (and I've had them believe me) who looks at you when leave on time, or is upset in you taking time off. Then maybe it's time to be thinking about putting into practice that job change you've been thinking about, looking at the logistics of how you can retrain or getting a business plan together? Just saying . . .
You may not be in that place. And that's cool. But this maybe something you'd like to think about or you'll think about in a few years.
I find fellow parents of the same generation as me saying they simply 'want their kids to be happy'. I don't care what they do. Just that they're happy. How can they truly believe that's a reality unless we show them how to? We learn by watching, by copying behaviour. It's our most basic learning tool; the one babies use before they can understand our words. Being the Change you Want to See is our current watch phrase in this house.
So what was the difference I've seen in my son when I allowed him to be well before he returned to school? He hasn't been ill since. For this skinny little asthmatic, with a cavernous chest; that's a major achievement. And that isn't too undermine or label him. I'm just putting into reality what his current situation is. It enables me to see what a change in mindset can do to his reality. Behaviour change which makes a real difference.
In reality he was able to process the illness properly. And those of us that do energetic work know that with every illness is an energetic release of some kind. For me I've known for many years hormones = emotions. I've come to consciously understand over the last couple of years that the immune system is intrinsically linked to our mental pathways. Those of us that are hypnotherapists or have been treated for illness with it, know in practice, even if you haven't consciously connected the dots, that our mindset makes such a difference to our bodies.
So by cutting short our, or our children's, time to recuperate, what we do is to not allow the energetic fulfillment to follow through. It gets saved up for another time. Allowing us to regurgitate illnesses, and cyclical life patterns, over and over again until we get it.
This winter, my son and I, have not been ill. Not once. I'm really, really pleased with that. Really pleased!! In getting rid of my mindset I allowed him to understand that it's ok to be ill and not carry on regardless. You're ill. It's ok to be ill. And allow yourself time to get over it. And once your over it, you hall your ass off the sofa and enjoy life to the full again.
And this is a basic lesson many of us don't ever learn.
If you've read one of my other blogs I wrote sat in A&E in the local hospital on Christmas Day with my six month old, this is something I've seriously considered recently.
As a parent who is Spiritual in any shape or form, you look for the 'reason' why your child is ill. When I looked at Aoife in her cot one night as I was healing her, I realised she was learning a basic lesson. That is was ok to be ill. It was ok to be ill and to ask for help. To be held by others during that period.
And as I healed her another time, I felt a release in me. Part of this virus was processing her birth trauma. An experience she shared with me. All I needed to know that we both needed a Christmas morning sat in A&E.
For me, colds, flus and bugs have long been a period to detox on a very real level things we need to. Bringing in mental and emotional changes, even Spiritual changes into the physical. Into the real 3D world we've chosen to inhabit. The proof we need that something has really changed. And so in taking the time we are resting, to embrace the Sage, the Wise Crone within us, we use that time wisely to process and understand. And also get over the illness so much quicker. Or stop the illness recurring altogether.
So everytime you choose to carry on regardless, to fight the illness or to work hard, what you're doing is refusing to accept the inevitable. That your body needs to rest and process. In fighting the processing of mindsets, in fighting change, you're doing the same thing.
Why do you think so many of us are developing illnesses based in the weakness of the immune system or the nervous system where we need to take time out for months or years to get better? All we're doing is storing it up. Even worse we may be storing it up for future generations; children who naturally take on their shoulders the responsibility which others should take on.
Blocking the pain receptors in our nervous system which tell us we're in pain with painkillers (don't get me wrong, a couple of paracetamol, a hot lemon drink, the sofa and the duvet is always a good remedy). Or fighting through your tiredness, to save it up for when our bodies finally say 'f*ik it. Can't do this no more'.
We're living in Utopian times, where serious illness, real poverty and lack of education no longer need to effect us.
The ONLY reason it doesn't exist is our mindsets. The only reason.
For me understanding the reason why you're mindset is like this, is the key to unravelling restrictive belief systems from your life, quickly and easily.
What illness have you recently had and how did you react to it? What were you mentally processing?
Where did you learn your current mindsets towards work and illness? What example are you currently setting for future generations?
What cyclical life blocks are you trying to get to the root of? What mindset or restrictive belief in your
What are you going to do to change this mindset? What do you need to work around in your life to make it a reality?
I'd love to hear your comments or likes.
Love as always
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