Whenever a client comes to see me for a regression, we spend time in deep conversation prior to the hypnosis in order to help me to get to know them and find out about many things, but most importantly, details of their relationships with other people.
I tell them that I don’t need to know the names or details of every person from their fourth grade class in school, but I ask them to tell me about the relationships they’ve had which have made some impact on them, past or present, positive or negative, as these are the relationships through which everyone is working out their karma with.
Every relationship of this kind is all pre-planned, arranged in minute detail and mutually agreed to by both Souls. It can take many Souls all working together in carefully orchestrated pre-life discussion, and very often, several alternative outcomes are viewed on something similar to a giant TV screen, allowing participants to decide upon how the lifetimes of each ‘cast member’ will play out.
Once incarnate, the Souls meet up as planned and form a relationship which will help each party to fulfil their part in the agreement they made.
Sometimes this is easy, such as when a parent gives birth to a child, other times we may have made an arrangement to recognise one another by a certain scent, a particular item of clothing, a smile at the right moment. This triggers the deep memories we have at the Soul level and the play is set into motion.
All this sounds as though we don’t have choices, as though everything is pre-ordained. The truth is that although we as Souls make these agreements with one another, lovingly and intricately planned, when it comes to remembering the agreements and acting on them we often fall down, trip over ourselves and just get in our own way.
The Soul however, doesn’t forget its promises, so after a particular lifetime of mistakes and mis-steps, we pick ourselves up and try again until we get it right. Spirit is very patient like that and wants to see us brought back into balance and harmony with ourselves and with others.
I want to share a story from a client who came to see me to find out about relationships in his current lifetime as he had people in his life who had made an impact on him and he was curious to see whether these people had shown up in other lifetimes, and if so in what way.
This story is about a young man by the name of Mark.*
During our pre-hypnosis interview, Mark told me that in this lifetime, he is a motor-cross instructor who teaches mostly teaches kids, and had during his time as a teacher become close to a boy who was being neglected by his father. When the boy fell from his bike and injured his arm, it was Mark who took him to hospital as the father did not want to and Mark became the boy’s mentor and friend.
Mark also shared with me details of a very difficult relationship he’d had with an ex-girlfriend and a friend who had betrayed him, and although he had worked hard to forgive, the woman was still in his life causing problems.
He told me that he had a number of health issues and also that he couldn’t get over the feeling of being lonely, unable to find love and not feeling good enough.
Under regression, Mark found himself as a man inside a castle, having returned from battle to be reunited with his beloved wife and their new born son. The scene changed and Mark was now older and teaching his son to ride horses. Once again, the scene moved forward and this time Mark was once again in battle, but this time alongside of his young son, whom he had forced to join him. The boy had protested that he did not want to join his father, but the father would not listen. A battle ensued and the boy was killed.
The scene shifted once more and we see Mark’s incarnat
ion being beaten badly by two men who were soldiers from the opposing side of the battle. I wondered whether this was the end of that lifetime, but wanted to make absolutely sure, so I moved the scene forward to discover to my surprise that Mark, though badly beaten, had been allowed to live so that he might see both his castle destroyed by a fire and his queen burned alive. The people who had beaten him had wanted to torture him in this way rather than taking his life.
What was once a happy proud man was reduced to a shell of an existence and Mark’s incarnation was left to face a lonely lifetime, alone and utterly defeated – powerless and broken.
After the past life segment of the regression was finished, I then asked Mark’s Higher Self to speak with me. I asked Mark’s Higher Self why it had shown me this lifetime and it said that Mark had needed to see this to discover the source of his feelings about himself in his current lifetime. He needed to see that he could overcome feeling beaten and still survive, only this time, stronger.
Unsurprisingly, the son from that lifetime who he had forced into battle was the boy who came back as his student. The boy had come back as the son of a father who was neglecting him so that Mark would have an opportunity to redress the imbalance from the last lifetime. I was curious about the fact that horses seemed to play such an important role in the past lifetime, and it turned out that this was the reason why Mark had come back to be a motor-cross instructor. What was once a mode of transport and fun in horse riding had come back in this lifetime to unite the souls of Mark and the son had once again drawn them together, but with a 21st Century update.
I also asked the Higher Self whether Mark had met the two individuals who had beaten him in the past lifetime were in his current lifetime and sure enough they were from the same souls as Mark’s ex-girlfriend and his friend who were the cause of so much trouble now.
I am still in awe of the intricate, finely woven tapestry that we are constantly weaving together, across so many lifetimes, its beauty there for everyone to see if only we can take a step back and admire the full picture rather than focusing on one tiny part of it.
The three people who had made the biggest impact on Mark’s past life time had each agreed to come back into Mark’s lifetime this time to help him to find his strength once again and to believe in himself, to not see himself defeated, but instead strong and capable of overcoming loss. His son from the previous lifetime had shown Mark’s soul how much he loved him by allowing himself to come back into this lifetime as an unloved child and Mark was able to heal this pain in both himself and the son’s soul by taking care of him this time. Mark was also able to see that his ex-girlfriend and friend were teachers, and in turn by demonstrating non-violence and forgiveness was able to begin the process of releasing them from his life, knowing that both the nature of the agreements with them and that the time had come to release himself from them.
Many of Mark’s health issues were also related to this past life, and some improved instantly post- regression, while others improved in the weeks after.
Mark reported to me that he was feeling stronger, more confident and happier as a result of the regression, and I wish him all the best in his continued journey through this lifetime and others.
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